10 Things To Do To Overcome Feeling Lost or Lonely During Your 20's


In college, it is so easy to feel alone. To feel like everyone has friends, and you are the only loser without plans. It's easy to think you are alone, but your not. Trust me, I have been there and done that. It may seem like a never-ending cycle, but there are ways to get out. I think it's so easy nowadays to think everyone is always getting together and having fun and your the only one at home doing nothing. That is not the case, and there is something therapeutic about being alone, it will give your mind space and your body time to relax.


1. Read

Reading is a great way to past time. I have loved reading from a very young age so, whenever I get homesick or, my thoughts turn to what ifs I pick up a book to get lost in it. It is so easy to spend hours reading a book if you are interested in it. Don't pick a book that you know will not hold your attention.

If you don't know what to read, then read about something you have no clue about. I spend countless hours researching and reading about how to grow a blog, how to grow my audience, how to increase my social media presence, how to write a successful blog post, etc. It does not have to be a fiction novel or a novel itself. Maybe you have a trip to Italy coming up? Reading up about the city, its culture, language, etc. before you go will help you plan and have a successful trip and get you excited.

2. Write

Writing in a journal has many benefits. It is a great way to get your thoughts and feelings down. If you date your journal, you can look back and see how much you have progressed over time. I was never able to sit down a write about how I feel at that moment so, instead of writing journal entries, I started writing ten things every day that I was thankful for. Now I have journals filled from front to back for everything and everyone I am thankful for in my life. It makes me realize how blessed I am and that there is always something to be grateful for.

3. Get lost exploring

I learned that being in nature helped clear my mind. Take a hike, walk around, go, explore a place you have never have seen before. Not only is it good for you physically but also mentally, because it gives you a new perspective. You could also get in your car and drive around, explore your town.

Places to hike around Lubbock, Texas:

  • Palo Duro

  • Caprock

4. Try Something New

Join organizations that are OUT OF YOUR COMFORT ZONE. This is a sure way for you to meet new people and new types of people. You can not stay in the same place and expect new results.

The organizations I joined in college that helped me get out of my shell:

  • Alpha Delta Pi- A Greek Sorority (The first on both sides of my family to go greek)

  • Alpha Phi Omega- A volunteer organization

I understand being nervous or having anxiety from meeting new people. Try picking up a new hobby. Cooking? Knitting? Finding something you haven't done will make you excited to pursue it and keep your mind occupied.

5. Make plans

Reach out to your friends. Make plans with them. Take the first step. Most people love to hang out. It doesn't have to be an extravagant dinner or anything that requires spending money. Maybe yall just sit around and catch up on your week, watch a movie, or your favorite tv show.

6. Find A Hobby

I always have believed in finding a hobby to keep you occupied and finding a hobby that makes you money. Your hobby does not have to be expensive at all. It can be something as simple as reading or expensive as horseback riding.

Here are a couple of hobbies that don't cost a lot of money:

  • Knitting

  • Blogging

  • Reading

  • Working out

  • Fishing

  • Hiking

  • Baking/Cooking

7. Clean

This one is my personal favorite. I love a clean space. I don't like hoarding stuff, so every month I will go through all my drawers and closets to remove clothing I haven't worn in a long time or know I will not wear again. Doing something as simple as cleaning your bathroom will help you focus on the task instead of the thousand and one thoughts running in your head.

8. Sell Items

If you haven't worn it in a year, what makes you think you will wear it in the next two weeks or the following year? I have made it into a side hustle to sell anything I haven't used or worn on eBay. It's a great place to sell items and buy new/used items at a lower rate.

Website's you can sell your stuff on:

  • Amazon ( Best for items such as books)

  • Facebook

  • Craigslist

9. Work

I didn't realize how much time I had on my hands until I started working and, then all of sudden it felt like I had no time. Finding a job was one of the best ways I overcome loneliness in college because someone every day expected me to get up out of bed and show up to work and work at my highest level.

I highly suggest to all my friends in college to get a job because it will keep you busy. Plus you, get paid and receive opportunity you may not have gotten if you didn't work.

10. Call Friends And Family

Last but not least, pick up the phone. Even if it's just for a couple of minutes, it will get your mind rolling in a different direction. Maybe call that friend you haven't talked to in six months or your parents you haven't talked to in a minute. I think you will both be glad to hear each other's voices.

Silence is a silent killer. Too much silence and your mind start going in circles, at least that's how it feels for me. So hearing someone's voice, especially someone close to you can help you keep your thoughts quiet for a little while.


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